OH ORLY: Week of December 8

Oh Orly,

I had a fight with my brother years ago and we no longer speak.Now that our relatives are getting older and the family is gettingsmaller, I would like to reconcile with him. Can you help?

Bill K.

Forest Hills, Queens

Dear Bill,

This is a very touchy subject when it comes to old wounds andfamily matters. I don’t know if you are a phone person or an emailperson or just like to do things the old-fashioned way andwrite.

Personally, I think writing an old-fashioned letter has a lot ofsincerity. Then again, there is nothing like a phone call. Havingsaid that, I would send him a letter letting him know that it isall water under the bridge and the reasons why you now want to bepart of his life and have him part of your life.

Give him time to respond by giving him your cell number or a numberwhere you can be reached, even if he has it. If, after two weeks,if you don’t hear back from him, pick up the phone. Make sure yousent the letter to the right address. I hope that the response willbe positive and that you get your brother back.

All for the best,

Smiles ?

Orly