Beating Cancer In Heels: Will I ever stop crying?

Sometimes, tears can be a part of the most beautiful and devastating moments of your life. During my fight with cancer, I thought that I was never going to make it through a day without crying like a hungry baby.

I couldn’t see myself not bursting into tears every time I thought of my CURRENT REALITY. I thought tears would now only be used for sadness and never for happiness again. You, Coachee, might be wondering right now if you will ever cry less and smile more. The answer to that is YES and I will help you do so!

Trying to figure out a way through it all will cause the strongest person to break down. As strong as most think I am, I still needed to cry, scream and let all the fears out.

I didn’t know it then but what I was actually doing, before the water works came dripping down my face, was mourning the loss of my old life and fearing my NEW REALITY. I used to cry so much that one time a friend of mine came to surprise me at my place and he found me in the bathroom crying.

Giving yourself the time to LET OUT all the tears will reboot you back into survival mode. Still, to this day, when I need to let them out, you will find me sitting in my walk-in closet (being surrounded by shoes makes me feel better) talking, praying and crying it out with myself.

Call me crazy if you want to, but doing just that rebooted me for the next day. I gave myself the alone time I need to release the intense emotional energy I was holding in. REMINDER: Excessive crying leads to puffy eyes and that’s annoying.

As time goes by, you will cry less over your pain and cry more about happiness. Tears of happiness are a direct result of your ability to see and appreciate the special moments in life.

I literally cried yesterday because my new boyfriend prayed for our love during our spontaneous morning prayer. I never thought I would share a prayer with a boyfriend or cry about it for that matter. It was one of the deepest and most touching moments I’ve have had with him, so far. Those are some of the little blessings that your new life will bring and it will lead to more tears of joy.

So my courageous Coachee, let’s work on managing your emotional breakdowns! You can’t spend your whole day crying and I don’t want to see you with puffy eyes. The time is NOW!

How do you set time aside to “let it out?”

Ask yourself…

Do I need to be alone with my thoughts today?

Will allowing myself to be emotional make me feel better?

How can I prepare for my alone time?

Tip: Create or find a private area that you will allow yourself to “let it out in.”

Empowerment: “The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Out loud.” — Coco Chanel

Inspiration for the week: Jack Roosevelt Jackie Robinson was an American baseball player who became the first African-American to play in Major League Baseball in the modern era. The movie “42,” which was based on his life, will show you his many breakdowns and how he still managed to get back up!

Calming sentence of the week: Being strong also involves being weak.

That’s it for today, Coachee! Stay tuned for more tips and stories from your Life Coach Marlena!

If you are interested in being coached one on one, please contact me at Marlena@MarlenaLC.com. You can also follow me on Facebook, Marlena Ortiz.