Beating Cancer in Heels: The “Beat Myself Up” Wheel of Hindsight!

Get ready to play The “Beat Myself Up” Wheel of Hindsight. All you have to do is guess the word I am explaining.

The word is an adjective, has six letters and starts with the letter S.

Take five seconds.

Figure it out yet?

It’s Stupid! Stupid! Stupid! Stupid! and it’s the mini name-calling session I used to have with myself when I look at some moments in life in hindsight.

Have similar words ever come out of your mouth when doing the same? Do you then go into a spiral, thought patterns filled with only negative thoughts? Well, I don’t know about you but I sure have, over and over again. It has taken me to some really sad places but thankfully not all time because I keep fighting through it.

When you are diagnosed with a life-threatening illness, at some point you will start to reflect on your life. (Trust me.) Thoughts of your past, present and possible future moments will start to surface abruptly.

It’s an overwhelming amount to take in because at that same time, you are learning just how precious life is. That awakening makes everything more intense. All this processing can cause you to feel lost, all over the place and cause you to take some good or not so good actions.

For example you might want to call everyone that you don’t talk to anymore to let them know you might be leaving earth soon and you wanted to know if they give a crap! You might want confess your love to everyone in your life or maybe get stuck taking no action at all. I relate to all the above but that for another article.

In this article, I want to coach you through those moments of beating yourself up when you look at life in hindsight. Right now, you have enough to deal with and beating yourself up should never be an option because no one benefits from it. No one.

You deserve the right to be able to look at those moments of “negative hindsight” and grow from it. That, my Coachee, is how you move forward. Don’t you want to?

We wouldn’t tell our kids to beat themselves up so why do we do it to ourselves? No one expects kids to make all the right decisions, so why do we expect that from ourselves?

Young or old, life didn’t come with instructions so you are entitled to make mistakes. So, my amazing Coachee, let me guide you though your “Beat Myself Up” Wheel of Hindsight!

Ask yourself…

How is beating up myself while reflecting on life helping me?

Do you know anyone who makes the perfect decisions all the time?

What can you do to heal your soul from this memory, i.e. make amends with someone?

Life Coach TIP: Since beating yourself up isn’t doing any good, why not share your awakening with someone positive in your life.

Empowerment: Like attracts like.

Inspiration for the week: Book, The Laws of Thinking by Bishop E. Bernard. It is changing my world as we speak.

Calming sentence of the week: Breathe in, “I’m not perfect.” Breathe out, “No one is.”

That’s it for today, Coachee! Stay tuned for more tips and stories from your Life Coach Marlena!

If you are interested in being coached one on one, please contact me at Marlena@MarlenaLC.com. You can also follow me on Facebook, Marlena Ortiz.

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REMEMBER: Women between the ages of 20-40 diagnosed with cancer get six free through the nonprofit BeatingCancerInHeels.org.