Ever since I have put my story out of how I Beat Cancer in Heels, I have had a lot of people who have a friend or family member that is fighting an illness contact me.
Every time it happens, a piece of me bleeds for their pain. I know just how much they hurt because I see the pain in my parents’ eyes still to this day.
Although I am not a parent, I have seen the emotional changes that they have endured and the fear that they will live with every second of every day. It has personally been on the top five list of painful experience that cancer has caused me!
Through the pain of my parents’ reality, at the same time has been a huge awakening of a deeper level in life. Our bubble was burst and we quickly realized that someone you love could get sick.
Although it may have not felt like it at the time, this awakening has helped us become stronger in many ways. We had to put our big girl panties on and deal with my unknown future, kind of like high school all over again, without the cancer of course. That personal realization brings you to a level of awareness that changes your forever.
Some families or loved ones might not make it through but for some it can tear a family apart. To deal with the split of a relationship on top of coping with an illness is just devastating to your heart and spirit. However it doesn’t have to.
A lot of this can be helped by working on communicating with one another and seeking guidance in areas that you are now struggling with.
The point that I am trying to make is that when someone gets ill, everyone is affected, but it’s how you handle it that will make the world of a difference.
Like it says in the move “Bridesmaid,” you are your own problem and you are your own solution. You cannot help anyone if you don’t seek your own help too. We all need each other even when we say we don’t. Sooner or later, we all reach for a human touch and it is that touch that keeps us fighting.
So for my caretaker Coachees…
Ask yourself…
Who would you like to reach out to, to deal better with your pain?
Would you like to learn how to care better for your fighting loved one?
If yes, how can you make time to do so?
Life Coach TIP: Don’t forget to communicate and listen.
Empowerment: Keep learning!
Inspiration for the week: My MOTHER.
Calming sentence of the week: I am only one person
That’s it for today, Coachee! Stay tuned for more tips and stories from your Life Coach Marlena!
If you are interested in being coached one on one, please contact me at Marlena@MarlenaLC.com.
You can also follow me on Facebook, Beating Cancer In Heels & Marlena Ortiz.
REMEMBER: Women between the ages of 20 and 40 diagnosed with cancer get six free coaching sessions through the nonprofit BeatingCancerInHeels.org.
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