Beating Cancer in Heels: Are you doing it over and over again?

“Insanity is doing the came thing over and over again and expecting the same result.” — Albert Einstein

Now, I ask you, have you ever personally experienced insanity? At some point in our lives, we have done the same thing over and over again, hoping and expecting that something would change, but has it ever?

Let’s be honest, change is inevitable. Oftentimes it involves leaving the comfort zone and other times you have no choice but to do it. No one said change was easy but if we didn’t do it, how would we ever be sane?

I started watching a new Netflix show called “Grace and Frankie” and it’s awesome, to say the least! The stars of the show are Jane Fonda, Lily Tomlin, Martin Sheen and Sam Waterston.

Need I say more? I will anyway. The show is about two couples in their 70s. The two husbands have just confessed to their wives that they are divorcing them because they want to marry each other. Talk about a big, uncomfortable change that you have no choice but to deal with, and how they deal with it makes the show my new favorite show.

The series introduces you to the ups and downs that come with change from the people who wanted the change and the ones who didn’t. One of the beautiful lessons from the show (that I finished within two weeks) is when happiness is a goal, you just have to let the change flow.

The flow of change can and will take you to places that you never experienced before. Good or bad, fun or not, you will soon find yourself doing something that will remind you just how important changing really is.

You, my Coachee, might have to or need to make a change. You might not have any clue as to how to start or if you can even gather the strength to begin.

Guess what? You can and you will. You are a lot stronger then you think and I don’t need to know you to understand that. I know that because you are reading this article.

At some point or another, you have made changes to achieve something greater. It might have been decades ago or just the other day, but the point is that you did. Don’t ever forget that. Use that to remind you of the strong person that lies within you. Your inner strength might need to be dusted off a little bit or given a little pep talk, but know that it always exists.

Now, Coachee, let’s commit to your goals by not doing the same thing over and over again. Accept the fact that you will have to make many different steps to achieve them. When the road gets bumpy, close your eyes and remember what makes accomplishing your goals important to you, and try differently.

Know that you have something inside of you that wants to come to life and take pride in that feeling, because not everyone has it.

Now I ask you,

What is a change that you need to make to achieve your goals?

How can you hold yourself accountable for making that change?

Who can help you accomplish that change?

That’s all for today!
Your life coach,

REMEMBER: Women between the ages of 20-40 diagnosed with Cancer get six free coaching sessions through the nonprofit

If you are interested in being coached one on one or group coaching with friends, please contact me at You can also follow me on Facebook, Beating Cancer In Heels and Marlena Ortiz.

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